There is no need to explain for different locations.

There is no need to explain for different locations.

A true wise man keeps his mouth shut when he is in a group and his heart when he is alone.

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A man stood on the top of the mountain and told others that he saw a vast ocean and the scenery was incomparably beautiful.

while the other person only walked halfway up the mountain and told others that there was no scenery, only desolation.

position determines the level and the point of view of the problem.

Zhuangzi said: well frogs can't talk about the sea, and summer worms can't talk about ice.

positions are different and cannot understand each other, so there is no need to explain.

in different positions.

Haruki Murakami said: not all fish live in the same sea.

everyone's situation is different, their understanding and feelings will be different.

there are many examples of this in life:

in our community, there is such a mother and son.

my son is the factory director of a large enterprise, and my mother is an old lady from my hometown.

community found that the factory director's mother revolved around the dustbins every day, always picking up some junk in it.

so everyone got together and began to talk, accusing the big factory director of being unfilial to his mother and letting the old lady pick up garbage at such an old age.

later learned from the relatives of the factory director that the old lady who was used to farm work in the countryside sat at home in a daze when she had nothing to do and became happy only when she was picking up garbage.

the factory director obeyed the old lady in order to give the old lady something to do so that she wouldn't get sick.

everyone lives in a different background, and the way to look at problems is only according to their own point of view. sometimes, interpretation can only be misunderstood as a defense, so it is better to remain silent.

moreover, people in different situations may not be able to empathize with each other even if they explain it again.

A 14-year-old girl in Henan chose to commit suicide by swallowing medicine.

facing the camera of the media, her disabled father shed tears.

he said to himself, "our three children only have one mobile phone online class, and the second daughter committed suicide by taking medicine."

the matter has caused a heated discussion on the Internet, and many people do not understand it:

"are people still going to kill themselves because of a cell phone?"

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"the little girl is so young, how come she doesn't know how to cherish life? Is cell phone more important than life? "

Van Gogh said: there is a fire in everyone's heart, but passers-by only see smoke.

you have never experienced other people's lives, so you will never empathize with them.

just like the emperor of the Jin Dynasty, when he learned that the common people had been starved to death, he would say, "the people have no corn to satisfy their hunger, so why not eat minced meat?"

such a joke is the same.

if you haven't been poor or miserable, don't ask me why I don't eat minced meat; if you haven't cried and despair, don't ask me why I made such a choice.

there is a truth in life: different positions, different feelings, different situations and inexplicable explanations.

so, sometimes if you don't explain, it's the best explanation.

different cognition, don't try to understand

some people say that the biggest difference between people is the difference in cognition.

people have different perceptions, and their views on some things will never be on the same channel.

saw such a story on Weibo the other day:

A battery car collided with a Bentley.

the traffic police called up the surveillance video at the scene and concluded that the accident was mainly caused by the random lane change of the battery car, so the battery car should take full responsibility.

the responsibility was so clearly divided that the Bentley owner even said that he was willing to take insurance and bear the cost of subsequent repairs to the Bentley.

but the owner of the battery car quit and asked the Bentley owner to compensate him for the repair of the battery car. The reason given was: you are a rich man, not short of this money.

and mocked the law enforcement traffic police: "you are snobs and take sides with him!"

some people say that arguing with people with different perceptions is a kind of unnecessary consumption.

it is really difficult to communicate with different cognition and understanding, and it is often difficult to reach a consensus.

Guo Degang once said: some people think that crosstalk edifies sentiment, while others think that crosstalk is too vulgar and that people have their own aspirations and can not be forced.

therefore, when some colleagues accused his crosstalk of being only funny and had no taste at all, he did not retort, but said with a smile, "Let's be funny first, it would be too funny if it's not funny."

there is a classic line in "five centimeters per second": we look up at the same sky, but look at different places.

the world is originally a mixture of individuals with different differences, and different levels determine that the latitude of thinking cannot be on the same plane. Even if you try your best to explain, he may not be able to agree with your ideas.

all wise people should understand that cognition is different and there is no need to explain.

be yourself, don't bother to explain

someone summed up one point: people who don't understand you really don't need to explain.

as Jordan said in an interview:

"if you want to explain, it has to be useful for those who want to hear it, but many people don't want to hear it, so it's useless for you to say it."

therefore, sometimes not explaining is also a kind of wisdom of life.

first of all, you need to make clear whether it is necessary to explain:

different experiences and circumstancesIf you explain the person you meet, he may not be able to understand you.

people who have cognitive biases, no matter how much you explain, they can't recognize you.

Furthermore, you need to know whether it is worth explaining.

Luo Yonghao once jokingly said:

"you only have to explain to two kinds of people: first, people in the court, if they don't explain, something will happen; second, true relatives and friends will be sad if they don't explain."

the rest of the casual acquaintances and nodding friends do not need an explanation.

living somewhere else says: "giving yourself to the eyes of others is the source of unease and suspicion."

A true wise man keeps his mouth shut when he is in a group and his heart when he is alone.

instead of trying to explain yourself to others, learn to be silent and live your life quietly.

Life is short, why insist on right or wrong, difficult for yourself, as long as the heart is bright and the wind is clear, there is no need to explain to others!