No matter how good the relationship is, don't reveal these three secrets!

there is a saying in the Book of changes: "auspicious people have few words, but there are many irritable words."

the old adage warned us to speak as little as possible. And personal privacy, which is closely related to our interests, should be tight-lipped and less said.

when you deal with the world, you can't talk to others about everything. If you know how to keep your secrets, you will know the wisdom of silence.

the humiliation of my past

A netizen Xiao Rong shared her experience:

Xiao Rong and Xiao Yu have been classmates for many years, and their personalities complement each other. Over time, they have become good sisters who tell everything.

I don't know since when, Xiao Rong found that his classmates around him looked at him in a strange way. She was puzzled.

until one day, when Xiao Rong arrived to take part in club activities, there was a heated discussion among a group of students, and some people exclaimed with exaggeration: "I really can't see that Xiao Rong is such a person!"

the emergence of Xiao Rong brought the discussion to an abrupt end. Everyone spread out on their own.

Xiao Rong was surprised and angry, grabbed the classmate who just mentioned her name and asked her to speak clearly!

"it's been like that since childhood, and now it's pure upside down!" The classmate flipped his mouth at her with disdain, took away her hand and walked away.

it turns out that Xiao Rong has been hurt by her neighbors, which has been her nightmare for many years. And this made her suffer for many years of humiliation, she only told Xiaoyu.

remembering that recently, her classmates have become estranged, her roommates have become indifferent, and even her new boyfriend has left her.

look at this situation, I'm afraid the whole school knows! Moreover, in the rumors, it has already distorted the truth of the matter.

this blow nearly ruined Xiao Rong's studies. What caused harm to her was that she divulged her privacy to the so-called "good sisters".

as the saying goes, it is often the person you trust most who can hurt you. Because they are closest to you and know you the most.

because of trust, talking about their own "embarrassing things", thinking that they can get sympathy and support, but inadvertently, leave others a handle.

sometimes, the danger of the human heart and the evil of human nature are as gloomy as the night.

for some people, sincerity can be measured and sold by two catties.

there is a saying in Yi Zhuan Shi ci Zhuan: "if the monarch is not secret, he will lose his courtier; if the minister is not secret, he will lose himself; if the machine is not secret, he will be victimized."

means that if you speak inadvertently, you will break your promise to your minister, and if you don't pay attention to what you say, you may harm yourself. If you speak inadvertently, something private and important will lead to disaster.

self-disclosure of privacy, shame and scars will not only do no good to yourself, but will give others more opportunities to hurt themselves.

it is better to cover up their pain, lick their wounds and heal themselves.

as Zeng Guofan said, "only if you don't say a word, you will stick to your teeth and Xu Tu will strengthen himself."

your own economic situation

there is a saying in Zengguang Xianwen: "customers do not leave goods, wealth does not show white."

the original intention is to say that when you are away from home, you should always be careful not to leak money, otherwise, it will be easily coveted by the people of the night and cause unnecessary disasters to yourself.

so far, it is to persuade people to keep a low profile, not to talk lightly about their own financial situation, let alone vanity and show off their wealth.

once caused great disaster by showing off his wealth, the most famous was Shi Chong in the Western Jin Dynasty.

Shi Chong and Wang Kai fight for wealth. This led to the destruction of the door.

Wang Kai is naturally rich and noble when he is the uncle of the dynasty. But Shi Chong was not convinced, and casually broke Wang Kai's two-foot-high coral tree, and moved out a pile of three or four feet high, threatening that Wang Kai could choose at will.

Shi Chong fought for wealth and won as he wished, but at the same time he also aroused resentment and laid the root of disaster for himself.

he has a concubine, green pearl, beautiful and beautiful, with both color and art. He not only plays the flute well, but also dances brilliantly.

Shi Chong loved her so much that he built a hundred-foot-high Chongyi building in the Golden Valley Garden to facilitate the green beads to overlook their hometown.

Sun Xiu was a close confidant of Zhao Wang Simalun, a real power faction at that time. After seeing the beauty of the green pearl, I was haunted by it and vowed to take it for myself.

Shi Chong is reluctant to give up. Find another bunch of beauties, perfunctory Sun Xiu.

Sun Xiu was furious, so he designed to sink Shi Chong. In the end, Green Pearl was forced to fall to his death. Shi Chong himself was not spared, and all of his family, young and old, were killed.

when he was taken to Dongshi for questioning, Shi Chong sighed that it was his wealth that hurt him.

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in fact, it was the vanity he could not hide that really hurt him.

Shi Chong's tragedy tells us that the reason why wealth hurts people is that there is nowhere to put the inflated heart for the sake of wealth. Driven by vanity, he shows off and wishes to be known all over the world.

just like Mr. Lin Yutang's "Ten evils of Today's people", "if you have ten cents on your waist, you must make a sound of clothes."

do not know that showing off vanity may be in exchange for a moment of star support. However, the tree is popular, high-profile ostentatious,

doing things is bound to be hindered everywhere. This is the truth of the saying that "the wood is beautiful in the forest, but the wind will destroy it."

on the contrary, the economic situation is not good, and it is not appropriate to tell people often.

usually do not say, really occasionally in distress, ask a friend for help, think of the past friendship, friends may be willing to lend a helping hand.

however, if you rely on your relationship and often complain to your friends that they are poor, even the best friends will back off.

"the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, but the poor have no close relatives in the busy city" is an everlasting golden advice.

therefore, the economic situation is private, rich and poor know themselves, and there is no need to say much. Everyone will talk about their own economic level, but alsoA mentally retarded behavior with a low IQ.

regardless of your financial situation, the wisest thing to do is to keep your mouth shut.

talking to others casually may lead to not only trouble, but also humiliation and contempt, which will do more harm than good.

your goals and aspirations

there is such a fable story:

there are several little frogs who agreed to climb a spire together. On the day of their action, a group of spectators came and gathered around the bottom of the tower.

the little frogs set out, and the audience below made all kinds of sounds.

some people say, is it possible to do it so high?

some people say that it is a fantasy to climb to the top of the tower.

in the audience's amazement, worry and other voices, the little frogs fell one after another.

everyone was very curious, and only through understanding did they know that the little frog turned out to be deaf.

it can not hear all kinds of voices around it, concentrate wholeheartedly, only focus on its own goal, and finally win the championship.

it can be seen that it is not the height of the tower that defeats the other little frogs, but the interference of others.

the so-called ambition is not only for oneself, but also for the goal and direction that you are willing and decide to do.

since this is the case, you should keep your mind and forge ahead. There is absolutely no need to share it with others.

because everyone has different cognition, they also have different levels of thinking. The opinions of others may not have any guiding significance, and they may also become interference.

even in the eyes of others, success may be just a fluke, but failure is due to your ambition and lack of talent!

thus arouse senseless ridicule and only add annoyance to yourself.

there is a saying in Shangshu: "if you are not proud of your fine deeds, you will end up with great virtues."

Great virtue is accumulated by countless good details, and details often determine success or failure. Our daily words and deeds are precisely the details of how we behave.

what can be said and what is not, is the focus of the details.

when you live alone, you know how to keep your heart; when living in groups, remember to keep your mouth shut, don't talk nonsense, don't talk nonsense.

if you want to be an auspicious and blessed person, you should guard your privacy, so that you can avoid both disaster and right and wrong.

is what a real wise man does!

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